Perhaps nothing is ever quite as painful as getting over your first love. It's not just any old break-up; this is the boy/girl who taught you what it means to fall in love. You thought you'd spend the rest of your lives together. You made plans for the future to live together or go to college together. You have loads of jokes and memories of the time you spent together. Now that it's over, you're scared that you'll never find anyone to ever replace them, or maybe you're just afraid that you wont ever be as happy with someone else. Here are some tips to help you get over it.
My EX:
1.Cut off all communication with him!
HAS TO BE THE HARDEST STEP! IT FEELS LIKE I'M LOSING THE BEST FRIEND I HAVE EVER HAD. I KNOW THAT WE CANT BE FRIENDS...WHILE I AM TRYING TO GET OVER HIM. WHY DONT HE GET THAT??
2. Don't hook up with him!
THIS TIES INTO THE FIRST ONE! WHICH IS WHY I TOLD HIM...NO I WASNT GOING TO CHICAGO WITH YOU. ALL THAT WOULD DO IS MAKE ME MORE CONFUSED ABOUT THE SITUATION, AND I DONT HAVE TIME FOR THAT.
3. Recall why we broke up, and what it is that I hate about him.
HE KEPT ON CHEATING ON ME. I NEED TO STOP JUSTIFYING IT, AND REALIZE I CAN FIND SOMEONE WHO LOVES ME AND WOULD NEVER BE UNFAITHFUL TO ME.
4. Realize that just because this relationship is over, it doesnt mean I'll never find love again.
I AM SURE THAT GETTING OVER HIM WILL BE HARD, BUT STATISTICS SAY I WILL DEFINITELY FIND A GREATER LOVE IN TIME.
5. Cry!
IT IS OK TO CRY TIA. I USUALLY FEEL KIND OF BETTER AFTER I DO.
6. Use this break-up to become the person I've always wanted to be!
ITS TIME FOR ME TO TAKE UP A NEW SKILL, FINISH SCHOOL, GET THAT PORTFOLIO DONE, PARTY!, AND MOVE TO CALIFORNIA...IF HE DIDNT WANT TO BE APART OF THAT, THEN IT WAS HIS FAULT, NOT MINE!!
7. Dont fill up the ipod with sad ass songs!
STOP LISTENING TO KEM OVER & OVER AGAIN!! LOL
8. Do anything I can to make myself "feel" desirable.
ALWAYS WANTED TO GET PROFESSIONALLY MADE UP. GET MY HAIR DID, START DRESSING UP MORE..AND ENJOY BEING BEAUTIFUL AGAIN..
9. Endure the pain & loneliness bravely!
WITH TIME, MY PAIN WILL HEAL.. I AM A STRONG PERSON..SO I WILL NOT LET THIS TAKE ME DOWN.
Always remember that you're better off without him/her because someone who you thought loved you who leaves isn't worth your tears or pain... "Never cry for someone that will never cry for you."
OOk...Whats done is done. I personally feel like he made his bed...Now he must lay in it. I gave he so many opportunities to do right by me, and not once did her ever...do just that. That isnt love, and I have to get that through my head. He hurt me because he blatantly didnt have any respect for me period. Right now...I cant lie I am very angry still at this moment. I can't even began to describe how I feel, and I am taking it out on everything & everybody. I dont want to do that anymore. I am beautiful person, who has a beautiful soul... and deep in my heart I know I am a good person. I just got the bad end of the deal. He was a serial cheater... He cheated multiple times, which meant he didnt give a fuck about my feelings, he didnt give a fuck about how I would feel, he flat out didnt give two fucks about me period. He didnt. Plus he lies about everything. So no...He doesnt deserve to be with me. He doesnt deserve me at all. I personally think, he may need to help, because thats some downright grimey ass, heartless shit. But ya know what.. in time...I will be over him. I will love hard again, and I will happy in a relationship so much more fulfilling than the one I just got out of. HIS LOST!
No comments:
Post a Comment